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Gumphood - 2005-11-04 16:25:18
I am not sure what exactly is bothering him and how to fix it but I do feel sad for both of you that he feels cheated and a little empty, and you don't want to give up a tradition thats important to you. In other news: Theo at Brockton Rox would rule!
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craige - 2005-11-04 16:44:02
Oh my god, she totally got a serious discount on those popcorn balls, too! Since the holiday was already passed and all.
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amy - 2005-11-04 17:42:58
(((Jennifer))) I hate when what are supposed to be happy occasions become stressful. Kirk's family's "non direct confrontation and sweeping things under the rug" is exactly what I grew up with and it is REALLY hard to deal with (in fact, when you talked about Kirk's way of not saying what he really wants when he thinks you won't like it... it struck close to home for me knowing I have the tendency to talk just like that!). The hardest part with my family is that they don't think there is anything wrong with the way they act. My brother told me that my husband (who gets loud when he is angry) hurts them but they don't hurt him, and I got nowhere trying to explain that ignoring someone, comments under the breath, and sarcasm are indeed harmful. But that's another rant. Last Christmas we made a lot of effort to plan our 6000 MILE move (with four children and two dogs) around having Christmas with my family. My mom told me not to worry about it, that she was going to Texas in December for my niece's surgery and wouldn't make the drive again nine days later, nor would my brother be able to drive to Missouri, so we would celebrate Christmas when we did see them in January. We planned accordingly. Then a couple of days before Christmas, WAY too late to change our plans, she decided it didn't "feel like Christmas" and drove to Texas again with my dad and youngest brother. So the entire family (my parents, two brothers, sil, and two nieces) all had a big Christmas together without us. I was so upset. My husband wanted me to tell them and I said, what am I going to say? I did end up talking to my mom about it later and telling her how much it bothered me, and she apologized. We are finally beginning to talk openly about some of these things, but it has been a LONG ROAD to get here. So... be loving with Kirk! I know how he feels, and it hurts. And also be sure you do something special that honors your grandparents, and talk about what you are doing to Will- he will understand more than you think.
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