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jen - 2007-04-22 00:50:48
aw, jennifer. It sounds just awful right now but he is very young and I'm sure he's not a bad person. He just doesn't understand empathy yet, maybe? Every kid is different in how they mature. He definitely won't be this naughty forever and it sounds like you are doing all the right things in terms of setting boundaries, even though it must be so hard! thanks for sharing the realities, tough though they can be. hope you are taking care of yourself so you have patience and endurance! xo j
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Kathy - 2007-04-22 11:46:02
I don't know if this is the same for you, but Thing 1 was a bit on the wild side as a youngster. We decided to try and give him alot of our attention before things would get too bad. Playing board games with him, matchbox cars, running at the park, just some serious one-on-one time with him. And it almost always seemed to stop the naughtiness from starting. When he would start to get a little hyper, we'd make sure that one of us took time to do something fun, of his choosing. Seemed to help. And he's a pretty good 9th grader now. Sort of.
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Kaire - 2007-04-23 10:06:28
I don't have any answers for you since I've no experience with kids myself. I cannot even fathom how stressful it is, but I know you are doing everything you can and that makes you a good parent, honest!
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Amy - 2007-04-25 03:18:44
Jennifer, you are not a failure as a parent. The failure as a parent is the one who doesn't care how their child acts. You care and you will figure out what is the best way for your family to deal with whatever problems you are facing. Wil is very young and you still have lots and lots of time with him. Keep working with him; keep teaching him. Whatever discipline you choose, be very, very, very consistent. I think Kathy is right- stay with him, have him work with you, stop bad behavior right as it starts and before it gets too far. It will get easier.
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Lucy - 2007-04-26 14:54:21
Hang in there. He's young and impulse control is one of the later things to develop. Hard on you, I know ... but your gentle loving guidance will win out in the end.
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Linda - 2007-04-26 23:07:02
You are SO not a bad parent. I am the mother of a three and a bit year old, and I know EXACTLY what you are talking about. My daughter can be exactly the same. So many of the things you listed, I was nodding as I read them, because I've been there - many times.
Let me tell you about someone I know, quite close to us, who had the child from hell from about ages 2 to 4. He was just a living nightmare. His parents used to bring him along to functions we would go to (this was pre-child for us) and we'd sit there and go, Oh My God. He was an absolute terror. I think he was so bad they actually took him to a doctor in the end. Nothing worked. Then when he turned five, he completely changed - he is now of the sweetest little boys you could ever imagine knowing, a really lovely little boy.
I think what your Will is going through is the 'terrible threes'. I know the saying is 'terrible twos' but apparently, three is the worst age. With my daughter, I can vouch for that. I also think that in most cases, it's a stage that kids grow out of. It's not a reflection on your parenting, honest!
Keep setting the good examples you are setting. Be firm, be loving, as I am sure you are being. And your little one will come through this - I *know* it!!!
Sorry for such a long reply, but I really feel for you becasue I know exactly what you are going through. You're not alone!!!
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Linda - 2007-04-26 23:10:07
You are SO not a bad parent. I am the mother of a three and a bit year old, and I know EXACTLY what you are talking about. My daughter can be exactly the same. So many of the things you listed, I was nodding as I read them, because I've been there - many times.
Let me tell you about someone I know, quite close to us, who had the child from hell from about ages 2 to 4. He was just a living nightmare. His parents used to bring him along to functions we would go to (this was pre-child for us) and we'd sit there and go, Oh My God. He was an absolute terror. I think he was so bad they actually took him to a doctor in the end. Nothing worked. Then when he turned five, he completely changed - he is now of the sweetest little boys you could ever imagine knowing, a really lovely little boy.
I think what your Will is going through is the 'terrible threes'. I know the saying is 'terrible twos' but apparently, three is the worst age. With my daughter, I can vouch for that. I also think that in most cases, it's a stage that kids grow out of. It's not a reflection on your parenting, honest!
Keep setting the good examples you are setting. Be firm, be loving, as I am sure you are being. And your little one will come through this - I *know* it!!!
Sorry for such a long reply, but I really feel for you becasue I know exactly what you are going through. You're not alone!!!
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